Its been two years.. So i guess i just had to

Well, I cannot believe that it has already been two years since I started my blog because it still feels like it was only yesterday. I know that I have not stayed as dedicated to blogging as I should so, maybe that's why two years seems like such a long time. Today was my dad's 60th birthday and besides the fact that I miss him so much I felt at peace with myself. Yes in class and at my apartment I drift away in thought every now and then but like I said I was at peace. Every now and then, I couldn't help but wonder if he would be proud of the young woman his little girl was coming.

For a very long time now, I have been wanting to sponsor a child but considering I am always broke I have not yet set out to do so. Just two weeks ago i was watching a random channel that i never watch on TV and just when i was about to switch off my TV and go to bed, an advertisement came on about an international non-profit organization that caters to the needs of under privileged children. Considering that I never watch that station I could not help but think that the advertisement was for me so I took down the number so that I could call them when I was more stable financially. I have been giving it a lot of thought and today i finally called them and I am proud and happy to say that i am now sponsoring a little boy in the Philippines. Yes i am always broke and do not have any regular income coming in monthly but I don't care because I am going to sponsor this little boy that needs me for as long as long can be. If I had my way I would sponsor more than one child but unfortunately am not yet at that point in my life to do so and if I did that I may just be the one that needs sponsoring eventually..lol. I know this is random and all but I have been giving much thought to adopting a child I mean not now but eventually.. I mean why not?.. I would be privileged to give a needy child a place to call home. Everyone deserves a shot at being happy and living a fairly comfortable life.

I knew that this day was gonna be memorable but i under-estimated how special it was gonna be for me. I know that a lot of people want to help but only have little to give so do not. The truth is that if you keep waiting for the right time you are going to be waiting forever so sometimes you just have to let go of all your worries, concern and fears and just make it happen. I know it is not easy but most times the most difficult things to do are the experiences that change our lives and make us stronger people. I have faith in you so today i challenge you to start from somewhere. Nothing is too small even if its just words of encouragement. Remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE...
Love always,
Daddy's Little Girl (Mbang)....xoxo

Do bad things really happen to good people?

This is one of those topics that there really is no right or wrong answer so basically, I am just going to say what my opinions are about this philosophy. Growing up I saw that my uncles and auntie’s that were some of the nicest people either passed away or had major problems. I am an optimist and have always believed that things do not stay the same for long but some experiences in my life and other peoples lives close to me have proved me wrongness have been people I know that have been battling with the same problem since I have known them and it's still there. In fact, many of the people I know going through a lot of issues are really good people so why is this so?

Now, that is a question that cannot be answered because that's life. Many people when they start to encounter problems and challenges there are two things that can happen to them. It's either they come out stronger as a survivor or they give in to their situation such in a way that it breaks them. If there is one thing I have learned from life is that everyone has problems. Yes, these problems vary in the amount but everyone has their share of issues. I know it may look like some people do not have any problems but remember, "Things are not always the way they seem." It is true that life does suck sometimes in fact for some most times but its no excuse for not rising above your problems because whenever you think your problems are bad there is always someone going through much worse and somehow they are coping so you can find the strength to do so as well.

I used to say that December was not my month and because I strongly believed this it became true. Every time December came I was always dealing with some serious issues but I met someone that saw so much in me and somehow that person made me realize that I am stronger and better than I give my self-credit. From that day I decided that I was no longer going to label December as my SUPER BAD MONTH and I tell you this past December was different. Yes I still had a lot that I was dealing with in some ways more than I have had to deal with every other December but I chose to be happy through it all. Slowly, the good started happening and even though many of my problems still remained I had a lot to be thankful for so i was at peace. And with time my problems seemed so far away. True happiness lies within and yes its true you need to be comfortable financially enough to be happy but at the same time, when it comes down to it all those things do not matter. What matters is the people you have in your life. Trust me they can make all the difference in the world. So yes, the truth is that bad things do happen to good people and yes despite what you may be going through, you can make your way back from anything. Just remember that YOU ARE NOT ALONE or the first one to experience such problems and that there are people out there going through similar and worse issues. Nothing ever remains the same so just hang in there because there is always a light at the end of the tunnel..

Love always, Daddy's little Girl (Mbang)xoxo

Can naija boys pick up lines get any worse??....

Don't get me wrong I totally love Naija as in GIDI for life but for real naija guys have the worst pick up lines in the world and the funniest thing about this is that they actually do work for some girls. If you r not aware Hi5 is the number one place to be stalked or to meet RAZZ peeps (and no this razz am using is not the cool razz). All you have to do is put up pictures and you have all sorts of people sending you messages that they can't get you off their minds. And even if you do not have pictures up people still send you messages that "you are the woman in my dreams". I mean how can someone you have not seen before or have no idea of what they look like or behave be in your dream? Is it me or is that totally crazy and unacceptable.

A while back I got a message from a random naija dude that said "my dad must have been a terrorist because I am a sex bomb".. I almost died of laughter, one thing for sure he definitely got my attention but I highly doubt it was the kind of attention he wanted from me. A naija guy told my friend that he “loves her like the vibration of the sea." How does the sea come into play? This other time, a dude came up to me and said "your an angel and I know am the devil but baby don't rebuke me" But WHY?? It almost like they enroll naija guys at a young age in a school that teaches them "LINES TO GET BABES" It should not be so hard to have a regular conversation with a girl. What is so hard in being real? Why do they feel the need to make up these stupid lines in their head? Why can they not let conversations come naturally? Just be you and if that girl is not interested move on to the next one that likes you for you not your money or the cars you drive. Girls like a guy who is confident enough to be himself besides, that's the only way meaningful conversations can be had.

Also, why is that many of the naija guys that approach you cannot speak English properly? "Eye love you".... Come on naija boys I know you guys can do better. I have faith in you guys. By the way, thumbs up to those of you that have kept it real all this time and are still doing that. Yes am back and this time to stay please hold me to my words. By the way, remember you are not ALONE so hang in there.

Love always,
Daddy's little girl (Mbang)xoxo

Couldn't quite think of a title......

Why is it that:
Most times you do not realize how much something means to you until it is about to be taken away
Most times you do not know how great your day is going to be until you are right in the middle of it..
Most times you do not realize how strong you are until you are able to face the difficulties in your life and overcome them.
Too many times we give ourselves less credit than we deserve.
Too many times we think that we cannot make it through our issues but the truth is that we can make our way back from anything. Sometimes all it takes is for us to believe in ourselves and surround ourselves with good people that can be there to encourage us during tough times. We need to be able to hang on and try and believe that we can always start afresh no matter how bad things get or how we screw up. Life is not always going to suck yes it is going to have its down times but its also going to have its good times. We just have to learn to fight through the pain because the moment we stop fighting we stop living.. So guys please hang in there and remember you are not alone...

Love always,
Daddy's little girl....Mbang…xoxo

Now for real my slacking days are truly over!!!

So i've been seriously MIA for about a year now and that seriously sucks because i've missed you all plus i have alot has changed since then... I would like to give the excuse that things have been really crazy and busy and even though to say the least they have, i know that i should have made out time to blog... So am here apologizing for slacking because i do not want you to think i do not care because i truly do... This blog is one of the things that really matters to me so am back again and this time i am here to stay... Yep i am not going nowhere..

Love always,

Daddy's little girl (mbang).......xoxo

We are blessed but do not even realize it !!!!

I know there are days that we think we have it bad or are going through alot but we forget that there is someone out there going through worse. I have been working at school over the summer for a month now. My job entails me to sit at a desk at all times and i am not supposed to leave it until my shift is over. Although, today i broke that rule because of this blind lady who was struggling very hard to get into the building. I could not just sit there i had to get up and direct her to the laundry room where her clothes were. She was so pleasant and beautiful. She was very grateful and she asked me for my name and where i was from. Apparently, her best friend is also Nigerian and is from Lagos... I couldn't help asking her for her name and her number and after she left she got me thinking for a while if not for the whole time.....


How could such a wonderful person be blind? Why am i not blind? These are questions that God alone can answer but i know that so many of us are blessed but we do not even realize it...We always remember what is wrong and forget the good things in our lives.. Our minds are so occupied with what we do not have that we forget the many things that God has done for us. I have been having a pretty long week so somehow i believe that God wanted me to meet this wonderful person so every time i start feeling down i can remember that i am really blessed....
Love always,
Daddy's Little Girl....xoxo

My slacking days are over!! I think...

I know I have not blogged for over 2 months and as much as I would like to say I was very busy somehow I know I could have made time for it if I wanted to. Don't get me wrong you guys matter to me a great deal but I guess I had some serious sorting out to do. I am sorry it's taken me this long to update my blog but now things are going to be different because I am on vacation and although I have a job with lots of hours I am jobless So you are going to be seeing more of me now than ever before.

Love always,
Daddy's little girl....xoxo